Anger is a perfectly natural response that can be found in
human and even some non-human beings. It usually surfaces when things don’t
seem to be going the way we have planned. Being frustrated, irritated and
displeased may eventually result in anger.
Anger may also be a secondary response to depression or
insecurity. Usually this emotion is left unattended to because it has the
tendency to die down eventually. But if anger takes the form of full blown
rage, and is not taken care of, it may result in the clouding of one’s judgment
and irrational behavior. Extreme aftereffects may include depression, eating
disorders, low self esteem, self injury etc.
Regardless of the nature of the frustration, it can never
really be ripped away by the roots. There is always a pretty good chance that
the issue would make a comeback, sooner or later. But there are a few harmless
ways through which we can tone down our temper, just low enough to keep
ourselves and others around us out of harm.
1)
The most basic and traditional way of
relieving anger is to “Take a Deep Breath.” Yeah right. That almost never works
because the minute anger takes over; breathing at regular intervals is the last
thing that crosses one’s mind. In place of this, you can always punch a pillow
or cushion.
2)
But if you insist on something
healthy. You can always “Sleep Away” your frustration. Sometimes the rage can
be similar to a volcano on the verge of eruption. Therefore, to take off the
edge, a nap or a good night’s sleep can be sufficient to tone down the rage. Just
enough to make you see things clearly and prevent you from making any harsh
judgments.
3)
Good humor can dissolve anger faster than
anything else. Humor is a
fantastic weapon and also a gift. Even if it means just laughing. Some people
find that just remembering a funny joke, or imagining themselves or the other
person in a silly situation gets their mind away from the anger. 
4)
Remember, your primary goal should always
be to distract yourself. Writing it all down is one of the healthiest and creative
way of letting out anger. All you need is a piece of paper and a pen and you’re
good to go. Just start jotting down whatever pops into your mind. You can
always throw away the paper afterwards. Or save it and read it later just for
fun.
5)
Yelling, listening to loud music, cursing
out loud, throwing things around are all natural and perfectly normal reactions
to anger. And they are all acceptable as long as they don’t cause harm to ourselves
or others around us. For example, if breaking things is your first instinct,
try dialing it down a little. And instead of doing any real damage, tear up useless
papers like old newspapers and magazines etc.
6)
Channeling rage into sports is both
useful and healthy. But be sure never to hurt anyone in the field. And if
you’re reluctant to get out, you can always channel anger through video games.
Need For Speed, Counter Strike and other shoot-to-kill games are perfect to
serve this purpose.
7)
Walking out of a heated argument is
perfectly reasonable. Remove yourself from the situation that is triggering the
anger so that you have space to gather your thoughts and calm down. Choose a
happy place for yourself, either in your home, like the garden or a balcony. Or
a nearby café or restaurant.
8)
Don’t hold on to grudges. If you have
something against someone, confront them about it. Again, be calm and rational
during it. No matter how unreasonable the other person is being, do NOT lose
your cool. Holding in grudges can most definitely guarantee the comeback of
past frustrations. Therefore, having a clear conscience is the secret.
9)
Concentrate more on the solution than the
problem. The minute you sort out everything and determine the cause, sit down
and think of a rational solution. You can always turn to a sensible family member
or friends for advice.
10) The easiest way to let out your
anger is on a younger sibling. It’s in our nature to attack a defenseless and
helpless being with our wrath. And although it seems like a very efficient way,
it is the worst. Not just for the victim but for us.
Remember, anger is not necessarily a bad thing. But letting everyone know that you're angry is.
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